Where is your thinking in relation to the health, wealth, happiness and love you desire and deserve? Most people are completely unaware of their thoughts, their “inner voice.”
Are you thinking about how all the good ones are gone, or that good men or good women don’t exist, or that soul mates are for fairy tales? Are you thinking about paying the bills, or getting out of debt, or all the reasons why you cannot buy that house, that car, that jewelry, that trip, that boat, etc? Are you thinking about your lack and limitations around money and relationships and any other part of your life?
This is where it all starts. This is the most basic and fundamental principle to understand: Whatever you are focusing your thinking on and adding feeling too, you are creating. Thoughts are indeed things. They are energetic vibrations, and frequencies. It was Ralph Waldo Emerson who said “ A man is what he thinks about all day long.” Our inside world [thoughts] create our outside world, in other words, our environment. So, how do we change it?
First, we have to be aware of our thoughts. Second, make an uncritical observation of your thinking, simply observe your thoughts throughout the day, no judgment, just unbiased observation. When you do this it may surprise you just exactly where you focus most of your thinking on. Understand we get to choose our thoughts, it is our free will. We choose what we think about, good, bad, positive, negative, it makes no difference the choice is always ours and ours alone. Most people focus on all the things they do not want. Then by law, universal law, they must manifest [create] into form, the very thing they do not want. For example, have you ever dated someone and you had a feeling that they would cheat on you, and then one day, what a surprise, they did. And you said to yourself “I knew it” yep because you created it, you attracted it, you assumed it would be true, you thought about it over and over again and then you added feeling to it, you believed it, and then ta-da like magic, it happened.
It’s the law of attraction. What you think about, you bring about. Instead, try this, pay no attention to the things you do not want, only focus your thoughts on everything you want. Instead of having a goal to get out of debt, think about the amount of money you want to make. Instead of thinking that there are no good men/women out there, think there is an abundance of amazing men/women out there. Same with wealth, same with everything. Whatever thoughts you think about and believe will be true for you. Henry Ford said “Whether you think you can or you can’t you are right.” It’s the same principle.
Where are you focusing your thoughts, the can, the cannot, the good, the bad, the positive, the negative, the lack, or the abundance? Your thoughts are creative. Be mindful of the thoughts you think and when you are aware that you are thinking of anything you do not want immediately replace the thought with one that you want, it’s the opposite like the examples I gave above are the easiest to remember.
Attracting the wealth and love we deserve also gets to a deeper level than that, see we attract what we are, not what we want, not what we hope for, only what we are. All the things that we consent to and believe to be true will attract us.
So, what is your relationship with yourself? Do you allow the inner sh*t talker to run your thoughts about you? Pay attention to how you speak to yourself. The relationship you have with yourself is the most important relationship you will ever have. It sets the boundaries for all the other relationships you have in your life. It is the indicator of the quality of all other relationships you have with people and money. If you have an unhealthy relationship with yourself it will reflect in your other relationships and will impact the quality of the people and things you attract into your life.
To create a better relationship with yourself you start with loving yourself more, choosing yourself over obligations that usually drain you, saying no when you normally would say yes out of guilt, speak only loving kind words to yourself like how you would speak to the person you love the most in the world, that’s you. If you don’t love yourself and are not good to yourself how can you expect anyone else to be?
[Melanie Verstraete is the Founder and CEO of The Wild Heart Life- where she helps high-performance men and women become the one, to attract the one!]